Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheinu, melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al sfirat ha-omer.
Blessed are You, Adonay our God, ruler of the universe, who makes us holy with mitzvot and gives us this opportunity to count the Omer.
Today is day forty one, which is five weeks and six days of the Omer. Hayom yom arbaim ve ehad she hem hamisha shavuot ve shisha yammim laOmer.
Today is Yesod be Yesod, sexuality within sexuality, intimacy within intimacy.
What lies within intimacy? Knowledge. Understanding. Meaning. That’s why the Torah keeps saying “And he knew her and she had a child”. Sex is synonymous to knowledge in the Torah. If we know someone else – know what they like or dislike, know what makes them happy or sad, know what they’re likely to say or think about a particular situation – then they are a person of our family. If we don’t know somewone, then they’re not even if sex is involved – they’re just bedroom buddies and that’s lovely, but it isn’t intimacy. That connection does go both ways. Touching another – deeply and closely – that’s intimacy. It builds knowledge and understanding. So, the best scenario is when both are involved – Both knowledge and intimacy need to play a part in making family. This day is a chance to examine relationships and see if they are intimate on both levels and if they offer the opportunity to increase intimacy.
Today, I think about the people close to me. Do I know them well? Can I know them better? Can we build intimacy?