Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheinu, melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al sfirat ha-omer.
Blessed are You, Adonay our God, ruler of the universe, who makes us holy with mitzvot and gives us this opportunity to count the Omer.
Today is day twenty-two which is three weeks and one day of the Omer. Hayom yom esrim ve shtayim she hem shlosha shavuot vey om ehad laOmer.
Today is Khesed be Netzakh, kindness within power, love within victory.
Power isn’t kind. Power imbalances in particular. Some people have skills and abilities that give them power over others – they are smarter or more capable in n area. These imbalances are what can destroy a relationship – or build a broken, abusive one. So, how can one have kindness in power, or love within victory? It’s tricky – because it’s not a matter of doing things for someone else. That can feel like taking over – it can feel very cruel. But we manage to put love into our power when we cook with the kids, letting them mess up the kitchen with their random attempts. When we play cards with our friend who always loses, and I show them how or find a way to not have the game be about winning or losing or play a game I always lose as well, and I manage to do it with enough grace that my friend feels supported rather than dominated, then that’s kindness as well.
Today, I temper my victories by trying to be gracefully supportive, especially in areas where I have strength.