Omer – Day 43
Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheynu Melekh ha-olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’zivanu al s’firat haOmer.
Blessed be the Eternal God, Ruler of the universe, who makes us holy through Mitzvot and has commanded us to count the Omer.
Hayom yom arbaim ve shalosh laOmer, shehem shisha shavuot ve yom ehad laOmer.
Today is day forty three of the Omer, which is six weeks and one day of the Omer.
khesed be malkhut – kindness within majesty; care within rule
So, we don’t really have much hierarchy within Judaism. Our rabbi is a teacher we respect, but no ruler, and basically, we stand before God in a one-to-one sort of relationship where God is our king or queen. There is however one type of hierarchy preserved and enshrined in Jewish law, and that is that of parent to child. The fifth commandment tells us to listen to parents and respect them. There’s a lot about what parents are supposed to do too.
Fundamentally, being a parent is impossible. There is no time to do everything one is supposed to do, never mind do it correctly. One finds oneself doing a few of the things, and not always all that well. Furthermore, the balance between too strict and too permissive, too attentive and overbearing, providing for needs and encouraging independence, open but not burdening child inappropriately – it is simply impossible, is all. It really does put us in a position where we try to be as much like God as possible. Since we aren’t God, there is no way to do it perfectly.
Today, we are reminded to keep trying – to keep balancing kindness with orders, care with protection, independence with direction – to be kindly kings and queens of our households. Today, we are reminded that since it can’t be done perfectly, we can at least try to listen to and respect those that made the attempt for us.