Counting the Omer – Day 31
Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheinu, melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al sfirat ha-omer.
Blessed are You, Adonay our God, ruler of the universe, who makes us holy with mitzvot and gives us this opportunity to count the Omer.
Today is day thirty one which is four weeks and three days of the Omer. Hayom yom shloshim ve ehad she hem arba’a shavuot ve shlosha yammim laOmer.
Today is Tiferet be Hod, beauty within gratitude, grace within thanksgiving.
I think a thank you can be beautiful, yes. Today is manners day, where we remember to take our elbows off the table and say ‘hello, how are you,’ in our most pleasant voices. Sure, when it’s fake, there is nothing more ugly than excessive courtesy. No one wants to be fawned on or lied to. However, when the manners come from a thought-out approach to the world, when they are a genuine desire to improve relationships and ensure smooth communication between two people, manners can be really beautiful. The use of these little bits of courtesy turns conversations into a dance of pleasing, where the goal of each side is to please the other. When we go further and express gratitude for the effort that the other is making, we create a positive feedback loop of good feelings and grace.
Today, we say ‘thank you’ and remember that good manners can be beautiful.