Counting the Omer – Day 22
Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheinu, melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al sfirat ha-omer.
Blessed are You, Adonay our God, ruler of the universe, who makes us holy with mitzvot and gives us this opportunity to count the Omer.
Today is day twenty-two which is three weeks and one day of the Omer. Hayom yom esrim ve shtayim she hem shlosha shavuot vey om ehad laOmer.
Today is Khesed be Netzakh, kindness within power, love within victory.
Sometimes, “no” can be the kindest thing we can say. No, I will not rescue you – I will not get you out of the fix you got yourself into. I can stay by your side. I can watch, should you need that. I can even, so long as you own the process and take the steps on it, provide some help. But the limit exists, and I will enforce it, even if it seems silly to you, even if you don’t understand it. Heck, even if I don’t entirely understand it but just know the pattern has to change because it’s become ugly, still there’s a limit, and I will stick to it. No. That is my power. That is sometimes my only power, and I push for it with all the strength at my disposal. When I do, sometimes, you take up my challenge. Sometimes, you do the do things. Sometimes you succeed beyond your wildest imagination, and that is a victory. It’s the only victory worth having, really. Watching you, I am proud of you. I believe in you. I know you can do this, no matter how hard it gets.
Today, we win through supporting without rescuing. We can love others without taking over for them.