Counting the Omer – Day 20

(Still 2 days behind! How does this happen??? But the book list game was so much fun…)

Barukh ata Adonay, Eloheinu, melekh ha’olam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al sfirat ha-omer.

Blessed are You, Adonay our God, ruler of the universe, who makes us holy with mitzvot and gives us this opportunity to count the Omer.

Today is day twenty which is two weeks and six days of the Omer. Hayom yom esrim she hem shtey shavuot ve shisha yammim laOmer.

Today is Yesod be Tiferet, sexuality within beauty, intimacy within grace.

Beauty is still one of the first characteristics that most people look for when picking an intimacy partner. So, the connection is there. Attraction, that draw between two people that results in love and jealousy and family and rejection and connection and so much more…is it something that can be developed? Is it something that one either feels or doesn’t and if one doesn’t feel attracted, one never will? Is it something that can be grown though attention and focus?  I have heard different views, from different people. I have even held differing views, depending on when. Certainly, when I work on being attractive for another, I am almost instantly more attracted to that person as well. It may be person dependent. What is certain is that forcing it is a bad idea. If attraction can be developed, ether in oneself or another, it would be through gentleness and caring, through being more and more attractive, but never through force. Sometimes, that means letting go of intimacy – and sometimes, it is in that space where we stop trying that intimacy happens.

Today, we check to make sure we are not forcing attraction, but letting it grow. .